Who Are You?
It’s quite incredible that when most people are directly asked this direct question, “Who are you (Name)”? they do not know how to respond.
Why is this such a difficult question? In most cases, people respond with an awkward explanation that includes what happened to them in the past and why they are where they are today as a sort of excuse, to explain why they are not where they should be.
So let’s explore why so many have difficulty forming a concise clear answer to this question and why it’s so important.
a) Self Esteem
Having low self-esteem, and feeling like they are nothing close to the personality they should be, is one reason many struggle with answering the above question.
Many people are also not aware of their low opinion of themselves until asked and this should help them to self-analyze “self-talk” thoughts and self-sabotaging words, phrases, thought patterns, and imagined scenarios (a fear that is not real) that continue to keep them in a low energy state feeling unworthy, rather than a high energy state of feeling empowered and ready to take on the world.
How you feel about yourself (Self-Esteem) is a critical factor related to believing that you deserve an amazing life and future. Your thoughts combined with feelings and emotions have the power to transform anything in your life including Lifestyle, Relationships, Finances, and much more because you see and value everything in your life from a different standpoint, position, and perception.
So everything that you feed your mind with daily must support your ability to feel great about yourself. This includes eliminating or restricting toxic relationships and environments of negative talk.
Also, areas to closely evaluate are what you read, what you watch (TV, Videos, Movies) What you connect with or follow (Social Media), and the time you are spending on any activity. As a rule of thumb, ask yourself this question, how do I feel (Positive or Negative Emotions) after any of the above and adjust as much as you can to only include positive influences that increase your “feel-good factor”.
b) A Clear Intention of Who & What you are trying to Become
When you do not know what the destination is, it’s really hard to start the journey. Who do you aspire to become? What are your best and worst personality traits that could be nurtured and controlled? Who do you admire? and why?
Ask someone close or multiple people who know you a direct question when you are alone with them, “What do you think I could do better? Please be honest with me.
You will be surprised by some responses but in most cases, you already know the answer. This will help you formulate a clear intention and personality that you are working towards becoming.
Think back to moments in your life when you were at your happiest and why?
Imagine that if you died tomorrow what would you be remembered for and what would you want to be remembered for? Write it all down, you are compiling “the best version of yourself” that you will soon become.
c) One Identity-Multiple Personas
When we answer the question Who are you? Most people think of themselves as having one personal identity, which dramatically falls short of the Personality they would like people to see them as and how they see themselves.
In reality, we become the result of our collection of limiting beliefs about ourselves but also have the power in our own hands to become the best version of ourselves.
A great way to liberate ourselves from this and change the way we view ourselves is to accept that we can be whoever we want to be and with whom, exercising multiple personas.
We all behave differently with different types of people in different environments for example: when we are talking to our grandmother, or talking with work colleagues, or talking with a close friend, or a total stranger, or a person of the opposite sex. We are constantly switching personas based on the person, the environment, and the context of the connection.
So, liberate yourself from your current perception of yourself, as your life is your Movie and you are the Leading Star attraction in it with multiple roles.
This strategy can be very powerful when you think about the people you admire, how they behave, and the different personas you could use to build a personal identity (involving multiple personas) that you and everyone around you love.